There’s a BIG difference, let’s be clear!

Having the wisdom to think before you speak means that you run what you’re about to say through a system that checks for:

Your own wounds and trauma laden beliefs

Misinterpretation of what the other person has said or asked

Your projections of fear and scarcity

Your judgements

Your expectations of them (which they don’t deserve to carry)

Whether or not you are hangry or tired

If you really mean what you are about to say

Words coming from any of these places can be the most destructive and can never be unsaid. The pain of words cannot be undone. We can only make apologies and help the other person to stitch up the cut our careless words made.

Whereas speaking your unfiltered truth is constructive.

When we filter out truth, we tend to run it through some...