*Keep reading if you are ready for a loving call-out with ZERO shaming*

But your browser history, bedtime thoughts, and Google Docs say otherwise.

You say you’re done with force.

But…
You rewrite your post five times before publishing—because what if it’s not clear enough to convert?

You check your phone before your feet hit the floor in the morning—because the algorithm might’ve slipped you something good (or terrible) overnight.

You finish “just one more thing” before letting yourself breathe—because rest still feels like something you have to earn.

You tweak your offer again—because traction hasn’t matched effort, and maybe this will finally stick.
You celebrate a win… and immediately open a fresh tab to plan the next one.

That’s not trust.

That’s survival in a new outfit.

✨Because trust doesn’t say it trusts—trust doesn’t have to check.

It rests when it’s tired.
It posts once and closes the tab.
It celebrates without apologizing.
It moves on ideas without needing backup.
It exists without proof, and without explaining.

And no, you’re not wrong for still moving like a hunter in a world of “alignment.”

You’re just coded to believe safety comes from doing more, proving more, controlling more.

But that code can be rewritten.

Not by saying “I live in flow.”

But by learning to feel it—for real, in your nervous system.

💥That’s the shift we’re here to make.
Because you don’t need to force yourself into abundance.
You just need to stop performing trust while secretly bracing for collapse.

What new behavior are you ready to embrace?

👇Let your system tell the truth. No shame. Just data.

(And if you're ready to feel the new code in your cells, not just your feed—I'm building something for that. 😉)

Here are a list of other sneaky ways survival based programming shows up whether you think you have it or not:

💰 MONEY = HUNTING
Survival patterns driven by the need to secure resources, prove value, or stay ahead:

Compulsively checking likes, DMs, or metrics

Constantly tweaking your offer, brand, or voice

Talking yourself out of big ideas before starting

Spiraling after seeing someone else’s success

Always consuming content while doing something else

Avoiding slow, present activities (like baths or eye contact)

🤝 BELONGING = SURVIVAL

Survival patterns driven by the need to be accepted, understood, or approved:

Replaying conversations in your head

Saying “I’m fine” when you’re not

Hiding your clarity in public (because it's "too much" or "they won't be able to handle it")

Making decisions based on being understood, not what’s true for you

Over-explaining in texts or voice notes, because you're afraid of being misunderstood

Replaying past conversations before bed

Flinching or deflecting when complimented

Feeling guilty for wanting more, even when life seems “fine” on the outside and you should just "be more grateful"

Over-apologizing for taking up space

Scrolling during meals instead of being present