𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐲𝐩𝐞𝐫-𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐫𝐨𝐤𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬? 𝐘𝐞𝐚𝐡… 𝐦𝐞 𝐭𝐨𝐨 //

In The Game Changer this week we are working on opening the heart.

Did you know that it is scientifically proven that intuition comes in through the heart?

Fascinating! One of the reasons it’s so important to keep it open.

Also, they recently discovered the heart has neurons, like the brain, so it retains emotional patterns from past traumas, doubling the likelihood we will repeat them.

GREAT reason to heal it up!

So… about that.

I’ve noticed for a long time I’m super sensitive to broken agreements. Something as simple as “I’ll call you later” and not receiving a phone call, has historically had me in 48 hr fits of rage.

With time and healing that has softened, but I still find myself hyper aware of people not following through with things they said they were going to do.

And even when I intellectually understand that things happen, it still bothers me.

And it bothers me that it BOTHERS me, because I deeply desire to embody my beliefs that life and humans are in constant flow and I feel rigid and uncompromising zeroing in on each little thing that didn’t get done.

It originally comes from my mom promising that she would pick me up on time from school each day, and then arriving 5-6 hrs late.

And has turned into a fear that people simply cannot be trusted to follow through on what they say they’re going to do.

Sam & I are having our students walk their past selves through events that hold a charge, witnessing them as they move through the stages of grief. We are inviting them, as I invite you, to be their own empathetic witness, to create a safe space to heal their hearts.

𝑰𝒕 𝒍𝒐𝒐𝒌𝒔 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔:

My current self went back in time & found my past self at a pick up event like above, and said “Tell me about it”

Denial/ shock: My 8 year old self told me my mom was definitely going to be here on time today. She promised. She won’t break another promise. She just can’t.

Over-analysis: I watched as she laser focused in on each set of headlights that passed by. As she made bets with herself about the next red car being my mom’s. As she prayed and bargained with God about what she would do if my mom came within the next ________ minutes.

Anger: As it started sinking in that my mom had broken her promise, I felt her little body freeze up with rage and helplessness. I watched as she memorized the route to my grandparents house 20 mins away. And then another day, as she gave my mom 2 hrs before she walked along freeways, to my grandparent’s house.

Grief: I watched as every version of me that experienced this cried, screamed, yelled, tantrumed, begged, pleaded, and just sobbed.

Acceptance/ self-forgiveness: I said to her “It wasn’t right that this happened. But it’s okay. It’s all okay.” She thought about it for some time, and then she nodded. She took my outstretched hand and walked forward, past this series of experiences.

Peter Levine says “𝑇𝑟𝑎𝑢𝑚𝑎 𝑖𝑠 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡 ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑒𝑛𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑢𝑠， 𝑏𝑢𝑡 𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑤𝑒 ℎ𝑜𝑙𝑑 𝑖𝑛𝑠𝑖𝑑𝑒 𝑖𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑎𝑏𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑜𝑓 𝑎𝑛 𝑒𝑚𝑝𝑎𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑡𝑖𝑐 𝑤𝑖𝑡𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠”．

By being your own empathetic witness, you can create your own safety, your own calm, your own peace. You can create a centeredness in your heart so strong that you can trust yourself to hold yourself no matter what is going on around you.

Money is nice. Luxury experiences are amazing.

But THIS! This is the real game changer.